Last week at a gathering over tea, we ladies (around 10) were gossiping on various subjects. The mood was light and the mint tea refreshing. But slowly the conversation started to heat up and I saw ladies all trying to speak at once. And what was the debate on? “Homework”. Most of them admitted that they help their kids do homework and two said that they themselves research on the topic and spoon feed their kids. I was not shocked but amazed at this.
I never do my child’s work; neither do I check what they have done. Yes, I give them a guideline or explain what has to be done but never how it is to be done. Children get mad at me for not helping them, but I know that’s temporary and it will benefit them in the long learn. If I help them, it will dissolve the purpose of homework.
Why is a home assignments or homework given? Is it given to access the knowledge of the parent/s or of the child? That is my question to you. Now you may ask, Nidhi what about time pressures, grades and maintaining work –family balance. Is it not easier to tell them how to do and save on time and energy? I know some parents who research on google for the child and give them prints and the child is asked to copy paste. Today I want to answer them back
“It’s better to let your child cry than to rob his/her intelligence. Serve him the ingredients and not the meal and spoon feeding, no chance.”
Tell your child not to worry about grades or marks instead focus on understanding the concepts.
Are you ready to control your emotions and not get tempted to finish homework for your child? I am. Do let me know if you have something to add to this. Unlike “My daddy strongest” lets propagate “Read – understand – reply”.
Looking forward to hearing from you soon!
Happiness and Sunshine
MPWE 2015 graduate from IIMB , a certified pranic healer, NYIAD jewelley designer ,a positive parenting and happiness blogger,a business woman, wife and mom. These are some of the many hats I adorn in regular life. My mission is to spread happiness and find value in little joys. My daily interaction with my kids is the heart and soul of my blog. I live for today and now,who knows “If tomorrow comes”.